Winning Through Negativity
Winning isn’t easy. It takes skill, patience and tenacity to achieve milestones. The sweat alone can be a lot. But you constantly sharpen and adjust your attitude to make it to the finale. And you nail it. No, it’s not easy but it’s necessary and we need more women to take a stand and win! Win without remorse, win without apology, win without an excuse for being great.
Now is as good of a time to talk about a winning attitude, forward moving and forward thinking. Some people will support your victory but others will be ticked! You might find yourself trying to please the displeased. Don’t.
Watch my video and work through the THREE QUESTIONS that will help you manage your way through the toxicity.
I don’t know why some people transform from being your friend to being your source of negativity. That story is for them to tell. I do know that it’s an odd feeling when people purposely rain on your parade. I mean, you’re already feeling raw, you’re outside of your comfort zone trying to build a better life for yourself. It’s scary to take risks. It’s scary to face rejection. It’s scary when people abandon you.
It has happened to me more times than I wish to admit. One instant, a friend seemed to be a great supporter. She was there for me during some big moments. I shared my feelings and fears. She listened and offered advice. Then it happened. She turned to a group of women that were not only not in my front row, they weren’t even in my building. My friend shared some of those confidential conversations, embellishing some of the content. It hurt. I was disappointed. I confronted her through questions. She lied. I left.
As much as I enjoy the loveliness of building friendships, I don’t have the mental capacity to decide who is in or out. Negative energy is unwanted baggage. Working to build an accomplished life is heavy lifting on its own.
If you’re reading this today, keep your head in the game. Work. Perfect your plan. Win. Beat the odds. Do it against confused competitors, risk adversed relatives or flaky friends. You can’t win well when you seek approval of naysayers, cheaters or disbelievers. You’ll lose some luster.
Raquel Eatmon is a Be Bold Accomplice, Keynote Speaker and Author of Beyond Enough How to Lead with Your Whole Self. For over a decade she has produced the Woman of Power Leadership Conference for high potentials. She is challenging audiences to live and lead bolder lives through strategic risk taking rituals. Follow on Twitter, Instagram & LinkedIn