You’re So Great, It’s Everyone Else...
“When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out, if necessary or possible. Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” Eckart Tolle
The onus is on us.
Longing for others to change is wasteful energy. You can use that fuel to Be Bold and look closely at your own insecurities. I had to do that hard, sluggish work. I found that you actually can change people through one simple action.
Watch my video and let the tweaking begin.
“Do You” is always a lesson on auto pilot. It should become an anthem, a GPS destination. Do You. Each time you speak to your smart speaker, Alexa should say, Do You. The message should be so ingrained in you that your operating system instantly clings to your ability to go within.
Attempting to change others is disastrous because you’re saying that something about you is better, smarter, more desirable. And you know what, maybe it just isn’t true (I’m speaking from experience). People change when we change.
Here are THREE LESSONS I learned while wishing others would change and be “better.”
No one is holding me hostage. I either be with what is, accept it or leave it. Those are my choices.
Any time I want someone to be more ____ (fill in the black) or to be different, I look within to see where am I coming up short in my own life? I also take note on how I’m showing up for them. Am I being bossy, a nuisance, a know-it-all or am I being gentle in understanding the situation.
There is more love available when I allow people to be who they are. Loving them beyond what I might find as a fault or shortcoming isn’t a reason to love them less… it’s a chance to love more.
Raquel Eatmon is a Be Bold Accomplice, Keynote Speaker and Author of Beyond Enough How to Lead with Your Whole Self. For over a decade she has produced the Woman of Power Leadership Conference for high potentials. She is challenging audiences to live and lead bolder lives through strategic risk taking rituals. Follow on Twitter, Instagram & LinkedIn