5 Tips For Having Difficult Conversations with Yourself
Good things don’t come to those who wait. Good things (and not so good things) show up for us when we go after it. Period. Don’t play safe. Don’t play nice.
If you need them, there are a plethora of excuses, old stories and myths that prevent you from going for it all. They’re like cushions, a safe place to land. Imagine if you could stop stepping on them, sitting on them and relying on them to make the journey softer, nicer or more polite.
We’ve been told so many stories about success and hard work. We talk ourselves out of opportunities and pacify what’s possible. If you want a stronger life, you’re going to take chances. Chances involve risks. If you want to get good at risk taking, you have to challenge the myths, burn the cushions.
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Tips On Having A Difficult Conversation With Yourself
Call a Spade, a Spade: Don’t run from what might appear to be shallow feelings. If you’re fearful, be with the fear, call it what it is and keep working through your strategy.
Personal Promise: Promise yourself that you will always be honest with yourself and others. Note that there are many ways to shield yourself from the truth, but why do it, it’s counterproductive. Tell yourself the truth.
Ask Big Questions: Talk openly about your expectations of your actions. What do you want, expect? The biggest question you can ask yourself is Am I Willing to Take the Necessary Steps to Live the Life I Want?
Track Your Conversation: Keep a journal of the personal reflections. Record your uncertainties, goals and a list of the things holding you back.
Practice Tenderness: Once you open yourself up to tough conversations, things will feel uneasy. That’s normal. Go gentle with yourself as you make life changes. Be kind. Show yourself favor in the trenches. You deserve it.
Raquel Eatmon is a Be Bold Accomplice, Keynote Speaker and Author of Beyond Enough How to Lead with Your Whole Self. For over a decade she has produced the Woman of Power Leadership Conference for high potentials. She is challenging audiences to live and lead bolder lives through strategic risk taking rituals. Follow on Twitter, Instagram & LinkedIn